Do you believe in the Law of Attraction? This phenomenon has peaked my interest for a very long time, but most recently, as I have been on my spiritual quest, this law has proven itself to me. Not only have I experienced the power of the law of attraction, but I witness it in others too.
The law of attraction, if you aren’t familiar with it, is the idea that positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative. In essence, if we can program our brains to think positively, we can attract positive thoughts, experiences and people to us. Of course the opposite is true as well, if we think negatively then we can attract an abundance of negative crap into our lives. Who wants that? Unfortunately I know a lot of people who continually do the latter; nothing ever works out for them, they feel victimized and it’s always someone else’s fault. Yet these people repeatedly only dwell on negative things. I can have a conversation with these people and everything they talk about is negative; their job is horrible, their car is a piece of crap, they don’t have money, people don’t like them or are plotting against them, their health is poor, they only point out negative things in others, etc. UGH! That was exhausting just to write…
I always feel bad for those people who can only see, hear and think negatively. It’s a downward spiral of suffering that will not end on its own. I feel sad for these people because they have no idea that they are holding themselves back from being happy, and that to change the way they think could improve their lives drastically. Of course, there are some people who just thrive on drama and the negative life and those people may be impossible to change. But, if I think a person can change and perhaps they don’t understand that they are creating their own reality, I try to help!
This all seems fantastic right? Or maybe it just seems like weird voodoo. You’ll never know unless you try. I made a pact to myself about six months ago (new year’s resolution in fact) that I was done feeling sorry for myself. I’ve never been overly negative, but I do suffer from the periodic bouts of depression and anxiety. I’m also heavily influenced by the people around me and often times I feel myself taking on others feelings unknowingly. Being an empathetic person and being prone to depression and anxiety can make this life feel exhausting. But, I don’t want to feel exhausted anymore, I want to feel happy. This life is short, so I want to make it the best that I can.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, or you need to overhaul your happiness here are some tips (that worked for me):
Remove negative people from your life. This is way easier said than done. You may have people that you work with that are extremely negative. Or perhaps you have family members that you find incredibly toxic. This is ok. You slowly start limiting your interactions with them and avoiding social situations in which you are one-on-one with that person. I have a visual exercise that works great for me. When a person is just spewing negative energy I imagine a bubble around them and all of that energy is bouncing off the bubble and back at them. This makes me feel safe and less likely to absorb their negative vibes.
Gratitude. Gratitude. Gratitude. Sometimes it’s hard to see anything positive when we are experiencing negative emotions, but gratitude, even in the darkest times, is the best medicine. This can mean that you keep a gratitude journal and remind yourself of the things or people that create happiness in your life. Recently I’ve started telling myself, “this is a first world problem”. This probably sounds weird, but seriously when I find myself getting mad because my car has problems, or my cell phone isn’t working properly, or work is stressful, I am often humbled by the thought of others who have far worse lives. I don’t have to worry about war outside my front door, or hunger, or health care or shelter. There are people in other parts of our world that are struggling just to live day to day. Keep it real people!
Think positively about others and yourself. I totally admit that this one is the hardest for me. There are just some people that I want to punch in the face and sometimes I want to punch myself in the face. But, when these feelings come up I try to remember that they are just human. We all have our struggles in life and I’m sure there are plenty of people that I annoy on a regular basis. So, this goes back to rule number one, and trying to put distance between yourself and those people. It’s also important for us to love ourselves. I’ve found the best way to do this is to follow my own personal passions, no matter how strange people might think I am. I like to dabble in creative pursuits, writing and even oracle cards to feel good about myself and life.
Those are just a few ideas that will help you transform your life for the better. Always keep in mind that life is not perfect! We will always have obstacles and stressful times in our lives but try to look for the silver lining and believe in yourself. Always believe in yourself, my dears. You have magic inside of you and it’s up to you to figure out if you use that magic for good or bad. Now, get out there and spread some positive vibes!